Mother-in-laws and their wahala

How to get my mother in law to like me had been a big problem over the years until i discovered the following  tips, make sure u look them through and keep yourself updated as i keep u posted on the tips on a daily basis for some days.

1. Be Polite
One of the hardest parts of a negative relationship with your mother-in-law is keeping your mouth shut when she brings out the nitpicking, critical comments. Being polite is not the same as putting up with what is being done; you're still perfectly entitled to stand up for yourself, but it is about not stooping to the same level u get?.
now if u v a hard time being polite then go through the following

a. smile wen u introduce yourself

b.be friendly and halpful

c.be tolerant

d.mainatain good posture at all times

e.compliment people about their clothing with a smile, acting friendly goes a long way because u neva know when u wuld need a prticular friend ata particular time . so keep it real.

f. try to be very understaanding

2. just act like you like her
by doing this do not take yourself to be a pretender, just do it to maintain that relationship, plus you are martied to her child, so whats the worst that can happen?
Even if she is so difficult or different, you have to show to your spouse that you two can be good friends. That would make him/her feel comfortable and in case she dislikes you, he/she would never think it's because of something you have done or because you haven't tried to have a nice relationship with her


More tips coming to you subsequently , please feel free to leave your comments as to your opinions,contibutions and suggestions.thank you.

Dear R4R,
so i have been seeing your link on Linda's Blog and figured i should send my relationship issues here. pls can u help me? i know this is anew Blog but i would like to post my issues here in order to get positive responses and help.

 I got married 3years ago and i live in abuja while my husband lives in a state in the North , well on this fateful day i travelled to the northern state where my husband lives and while i was cleaning the house i saw a female Pant in the house, so i decided to ask my husband who said that i should mind my own business and said i was not suppose to search his house, this caused a big fight and he almost sent me out of the house back to abuja where i live with the kids( he is a civil servant serving in the state) i have discussed with alot of my in laws and my pple, and they all say i should stay and endure with him. needless to say he is from Edo state and i am a yoruba woman from ijebu.

pls R4R, post my comments , nd i hope i get good comments because i am really confused i need help on what to do.

thanx.

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